The Break-up

I thought when I met the man of my dreams and agreed to marry him that would be it, I would never have to face a break-up again. But then I went into real estate......

You know it can happen, you prepare yourself for it, but in the end it still feels the same. You feel rejected, wonder where you went wrong. Was it something I said, something I did? Did I not offer enough, was I too forth coming? Was I too desperate or did I seem too confident? Just like a break-up with a boyfriend there are so many unanswered questions. My most recent rejection was like the bad break-up you hear about but think will never happen to you. The one over e-mail where no real reason is given. You know the "It's not you, it's me" bit. Here's an excerpt:

I've really enjoyed talking to you and getting your professional opinion about our experiences with the housing market.  At this time, we have decided to go with a different realtor.  It is nothing personal towards you.  You have been wonderful!  It is so hard to make decisions about these things!  Please know that if we ever consider moving again, you will be one person that we strongly consider contacting.  We will also be happy to pass your name off to other friends and family that we know who are looking for a realtor.  

Ok seriously people. Is anyone going to buy this????? At what point do you suggest a realtor that was so great you decided not to use them?

So I of course needed more. I sent a request for feedback. (Because I'm girl who can't take a hint, I need reasons!)

Thank you for considering me as the agent to list your home. I always appreciate feedback that will help me improve service to my clients. Is there anything specific I did or didn’t do that influenced your decision?

 Their response....

The agent that we went with was just someone that we had gotten to know through some other connections.  It was nothing you did or didn't do!  You were wonderful!  I actually felt really bad emailing you this morning.  I wish we could have two agents!  Thanks again for your time.

Please give me something....... I can't leave it alone

But I don't understand, I thought we had a connection. We seemed to have something. Maybe I should come over and talk. We can work things out. I can change!

 Ok so I didn't really send that. Though I thought about it. I think the next real estate help book they need to write is "That client's just not that into you!" Maybe then I would have seen it coming.....